People have different coping mechanisms when it comes to dealing with their size. When it comes to full figured people I have observed four different coping categories.
1. One is the person who wear their fatness like some kind of ball and chain as if they had been sentenced to death, walking around with their head down, shuffling through places as if they are not worthy of being in the presence of others. Almost as if saying if I can just get what I need here and escape without anyone noticing me then I'll soon be in the privacy of my own home where I can be who I really am.
2. Secondly is the person who copes with their largeness by becoming defiant toward others even to the point of being obnoxious about it saying, "If you don't like me then don't look!" Always on the defensive and absolutely polar opposite to the example above.
3. Miss/Mr nice about everything is the next category. You know the type, the ones who try to make up for their self determined deficiency by reasoning that if they're just really really nice then people will accept them.
4. Alas we come to number four and this one is so mysterious, so unexplainable, the one who seems to defy gravity and in this one lies the secret of true acceptance. This mysterious creature is the focus of this article.
When I was a young man in my twenties I played music with several of the local musicians and one of the musicians, whom for the sake of this article we will call Tom, was a rather large guy who his friends called "Round Man". Now Tom was not only rather round but he was not what I would call overly attractive either. But there was something quite puzzling about Tom as he always seemed to attract the prettiest women and for the life of me I could not figure it out.
After hanging out with Tom for several months it finally dawned on me what it was and the answer to that changed the way I viewed myself so profoundly. You see what Tom had that so many others did not was CONFIDENCE. He was so at home in his own skin, I mean he never hung his head low, he never was overly obnoxious nor was he overly nice, he was who he was and others just accepted him for who he was. From that point forward I began utilizing this newly found secret and I can tell you it has worked like a charm.
So learn to be comfortable in your own skin no matter what size you are. People will be so into you as a person that they simply will not care about your size. And that's the God's honest truth!
Bobby_G._Keith
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Thanks for adding my article.
Best regards,
Bobby G. Keith
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